Before you read any further, I need you to envision the morning of your wedding day. Come up with a list of five words to describe how you want to feel in that moment. This can be a mental list - but if you’re anything like me, you’ll need to grab a notepad. Don’t worry; I’m going to do it too. Imagine yourself in the car on the way to the bridal suite, putting your dress on, applying that last coat of lipstick – focus on the moments that take place before you walk down the aisle and ask yourself how you want to feel. My list: relaxed, excited, joyous, peaceful, ready.
While our lists may not be exactly the same, I would bet if we both came up with a list of five words that every bride does not want to feel on her wedding day, that some of those words would be repeated: stressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, tense, exhausted, worn out. The list could go on.
Weddings are a celebration, and all of the words I listed above have no business being associated with the word, ‘celebration.’ On your wedding day, we want to see tears of joy, cries of praise, and hands held in excitement. If these two starkly different mental images weren’t enough to lead you to consider hiring a wedding planner, I have two other compelling reasons that might do the trick.
1. Do it for yourself
Read your list to yourself again, and allow yourself to believe that your vision can be a reality. You may have to throw out any preconceived notions of the brides you’ve seen on TV, in movies, and maybe some that you’ve encountered in real life. It is possible to plan and execute your wedding stress free. Do you believe me? All you need is the right help.
Hiring a wedding planner does not take away your ownership of your dream wedding – at RTR we are looking for the bride who dreams big, is excited to take risks, and to be excited about the process. But let us handle the things in between: the coordination among vendors, the set-up, the scheduling.
2. Do it for your loved ones
You’ve got your wedding crew, who I’m betting, is more than willing to help you in any way when it comes to planning and executing your dream wedding – and you should let them! Inviting those that you love to help you build the foundation of your future together with your fiancé should be a part of the wedding planning process. You may even find that your friend, neighbor, or second cousin has a hidden talent that you never knew about and wants to be a part of your big day.
Show them some love, too. If you are anything like me, I cannot rest easy knowing that my loved ones are carrying an undue burden. A wedding planner allows these special people in your life to help you lay the first bricks of your new life together, but takes away the frustrating and the stressful parts, and honestly – the parts that most brides don’t think about when they start wedding planning.
It takes a team of dedicated, creative individuals to plan and execute a beautiful wedding. On your wedding day, you want the ones you love most to be ushering in the next chapter of your life with laughing, toasting, dancing the night away – not saying “good riddance” to the past months of exhaustive and stressful wedding planning that they’ve endured. The five words that you came up don’t only apply to yourself; extend them to those around you.